Thursday, June 10, 2010

Falling in love with your best friend: How to handle it?

When you fall in love with your best friend you never know what to expect. It can be the start of something beautiful, or the end of a friendship if the feelings aren't returned? feel the same way right now?

The most difficult part is...deciding whether or not to tell them that you have fallen in love with them will be the hardest decision that you ever make. No matter which choice you make you will wonder if you made the right one until you feel secure in the status in of that relationship.

Falling in love is a different experience for everyone. Friendships are valuable things that make people feel secure and loved. Falling in love with your best friend is a scary endeavor. Handling it can be even scarier. and i always get tucked in the middle of this problem!

Don't panic! it's not the end of the world in fact it can be the beginning of something wonderful. You have trusted them with all of your secrets and they have been your rock through the hardest times of your life. Now you feel those feeling of friendship developing into more. This is a scary time for you and you become full of all sorts of hidden fears you have never felt before.

There are two big fears that come along with falling in love with your best friend. The first is whether or not to tell them and what if they don't feel the same way about you that you do about them. The second is the fear of losing your best friend. There is a superstition that friends that date cease to be friends when the relationship ends.

Should you choose to tell them instead of tucking the secret away from the light of day you need to pick you timing carefully. The best way to tell them is simply to be honest. The best time to tell them is usually when you begin to suspect that they fell the same way about you.

So, how to deal with it?

  1. Observe if he/she has the same feelings for you
  2. Take your time.
  3. Spend some time together.
  4. Humor may help.
  5. It's important to understand what he/she needs, and be there for him/her.
  6. If you're lucky and compatible, things will work out.
  7. After some time, you may just need to tell him/her.

Now do the two of you act on your feelings? Provided the two of you choose to date each other you will want to take things slowly. You have to be careful because a bad ending to this relationship can cost you one of the most precious friendships that you have ever had. Think about all of your actions before you take them.

Communication is important in both friendship and dating. Make sure to keep that line of open communication that you had before you fell in love with them open after you fall in love with them. It may not be easy but it is vital in the preservation of the friendship even if nothing comes of the love you feel for them.

Jealousy is not an attractive accessory on anyone. Should your best friend be involved with someone when you realize that you have fallen in love with them be supportive of the relationship. Tearing into the one they are with will only make you look bad, decrease the chances of having something more than friendship with them and increase the chances that the friendship will come to an abrupt halt.

No matter what happens once you fall in love with your best friend you must always remember to live your life in a way that makes you happy.




  1. translate dlu..hihihih

  2. ops. im in luv with my bestfren heh? please please, i need ur advice. hehehe

  3. apiih haha belajar la

    lizz; hang jatuh chenta ngan aku ke? hahaha

  4. i prefer to fall in love with my best freinds becoz i friend with them with love.. ;)