Sunday, May 23, 2010

How To Love Someone?

how to love someone if you have problems loving him. Even if you were hurt by him or even if he hates you there are still some things that you can do in order to love him

+ Convincing yourself that you Love Him

you cant just go and repeat the phrase I love him, you must do something that is more convincing to your subconscious like telling that person i love you. when you say it out loud to him you are actually saying it to yourself but it becomes much more effective than if you said it to yourself. The more you tell him i love you the more you are convincing yourself of the same fact.

+ Visualize being With Him

In case you want to love the person, do the exact opposite; you have to keep visualizing yourself with him. This will further strengthen the new belief in your subconscious mind that you want to be with him.

+ Stay with Him often

Don’t avoid the person that you want to love so that you won’t reduce the intimacy in the relation but instead, stay more with him. Staying close to him won’t only increase intimacy but it will strengthen the belief in your mind that you love him. Every time you see that person you are actually sending a new reinforcement message to your subconscious mind telling it that we may be together one day.

What if everything failed?

What if you failed to love him even though you have tried all of the possible methods? In this case you should think using your mind and not using your emotions. Ask yourself these questions:

1-Am I trying to love him because I feel guilty? (in case he loves you but you don’t share him the same feelings)
2-Is he matching my criteria? Does he posses the similar values?
3-What if I loved him, what will be the future of the relation, will it work?
4-Will this relation make my life better or will it be a drag on me?

If you found that you are acting emotionally based on guilt or on any other emotion then you may have been mistaken in trying to love that person. In this case, taking him as a friend is the best choice.

"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you (without you having to plead and beg), its yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never meant to be."


  1. salam ziarah

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  2. salam.....singgah malam jumaat disini...